I have been busily working on the September Self Love Immersion ( you can still sign up here http://eepurl.com/bea4Bj)
I am also busily working away at creating the Awaken Your Inner Goddess on line program which I am really excited about . I have been working on this for aaaaaaggggggggeeeeesssss because I want to get it just right and really help women let go of all the old paradigms and beliefs that are holding them back from truly being their most authentic selves, attracting the kind of relationship that nourishes their souls, reigniting the passion in their current relationship and move them into a place of deep peace and satisfaction with their lives.
For years, I was stuck in a relationship that just wasn't working. Sure we had an awesome sex life and two great kids but I felt like something was missing. And it was. I was the one that was missing. Somewhere along the way I lost myself. I lost who I was outside of being a Mum and someone's wife. I lost the part of me that lit up just by being myself. You can read more about my journey to reigniting myself in my book.
I have also been busily writing for The Huffington Post because my mission is to help as many women as possible live lives of passion, purpose and as the Sensual Awakened Goddesses that they were born to be.
We all seem to go just a tiny bit crazy over the holiday season. We rush around like the world is going to end to morrow with "To Do" lists a mile long.
And an even longer list of "Shoulds":
I shouldbuy everyone I know a gift including the kids teachers, the postman, the garbage collection guy and the lady that does my hair.
I should go home for the holidays. I should go to all the events I am invited too so I don't hurt any one's feelings.
My house should be decorated and everything should be cleaned and look like the team from House and Garden are about to drop by for a photo shoot.
I should cook everything form scratch and provide alternatives in case any vegan/lactose intolerant/gluten free/following a strict diet/Paleo/ nut allergic people stop by.
I should prepare enough food in case the apocalypse happens over the holiday break happens.
*Yawn* makes me tired just writing it. The reality is that we don't need to do any of that stuff. What we need more than anything is to take a deep breath ( gone on just try it, right now) and relax.
We need to switch our focus back to what the holiday season is all about ; LOVE, PEACE and GOODWILL to ALL. The holidays are a time to reflect on the past year and look forward to the coming year with anticipation of better things to come.
Here's a list to help guide you through the coming season:
(1) Breathe: If you find yourself getting worked up or agitated take a moment to take three nice, slow deep breaths. If you are still worked up try another three. Trust me, just pausing to breathe can make the world of difference.
(2)Simplify: Write a list of all that you need to do. Now look at it and decide how you can cross at least half of it off. Do you really need to make everything from scratch or can you buy some of it ready made? Is it really important to clean the windows, clean the carpets and reorganise the linen cupboard or could you just leave that til later? Does the garden really have to look perfect? Get the idea? Pull back to a level of sanity.
(3) Delegate: Look at your list again and ask yourself who else could do that job for you?
(4) Enjoy: IF you aren't having fun then you are doing it wrong! The holidays are about FUN and if you are so busy running from one task to the next that you are just stressed and grumpy then everybody loses
(5)Hydrate: ( this one is for all of us in the Southern Hemisphere!) While you are out and about doing all your Christmas jobs remember to DRINK, and NO, I don't mean alcohol! It gets hot and shopping is hard work so always take a water bottle with you and actually drink it.
(6)BREATHE: Yes, I know it's on here twice because that is how important it is.
(7)Hug: Hug yourself, hug your kids, hug your friends, hug your partner. Hugging releases oxytocin which is not only the bonding hormone but also makes us feel more connected, relaxed and secure and we could all do with more of that.
(8) Relax: Christmas is only one day and we all try to cram in so much activity and a years worth of bonding into one day. We also have far too high an expectation of what our family holiday is supposed to be or should ( there's that word again!) so just STOP and let it all unfold without feeling you have to control it all.
That's it in a nutshell. What is your best tip for surviving the holidays? Leave me a comment below.
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I seem to be fascinated with time today I just wrote this article for The Wellness Directory and now I am working on this chapter of my upcoming book: Every Goddesses guide to Sex, Love and Life.
This is just a wee snippet. If you love it sign up for my newsletter for all the updates on when the book will be available.
The Curse of Busy
We all do it. We use busy as an excuse for getting out of
things or as a catch cry for everything; “I’m so busy” “I’d love to but I’m
just really busy right now.”We think it
makes us seem important , all this busy-ness means we have so much to do, so
much to juggle and so we rush through our days, being busy, often though, the
very act of being busy is stopping us from actually being productive or
connected or from just being. We have got so caught up in the rush and thrill
of being busy that we have forgotten how to just be.
After all we are human beings not human doings, though if
you were to check us out on any given day you would find that we spend far more
time doing than being. Our lives rush past us in a blur of busy-ness, we seem
impatient for the next step the next achievement and forget that this moment
right here, is our life.
This is never more apparent than when we are raising our
children; we cannot wait for them to reach the next milestone; sleeping through
the night, rolling over, crawling, walking, talking and the days slip by
without us registering the enormity of us having birth to this human being. We
need to stop, slow down, take a breath and drink it all in.
This became fully apparent to me when I had my youngest son;
that this would be the last time that I would be pregnant, the last time that I
would breastfeed, the last time that I would be there for so many first times.
I still didn’t get it right all the time, I don’t think anybody ever does and
by trying to make it perfect we suck all the joy out of it anyway.
For all you mums out there take it easy on yourself, it
doesn’t matter if the laundry doesn’t get folded, it does matter if you sit and
listen to your child explain what is going on for them whether they are 2 or 15
or 25 no, it never stops and yes, listening is always that important).
We forget in the midst of all the busy work; the laundry
folding, dish washing and meal cooking that life is happening and life is what
we are supposed to be paying attention to. Your life, your kids’ lives, your
life with your partner (husband, lover whatever you want to call him –or her).
Step out of the kitchen, put down the phone, step away from the computer and
find something, anything that connects you to you. We all need to spend more time
connecting with our centre, finding out what makes us tick and letting go of
our baggage.
One of the ways that we stop ourselves healing from our past
is the eternal quest of busy; reading one more email, writing one more post on Facebook,
running endless errands, anything that will stop us from being still and
looking inside ourselves and asking “ What do I need to heal? What do I need to
let go of?” This is the real work of living, developing and growing into the
finest, highest, best version of yourself, peeling off all the masks that we
wear and looking ourselves in the eye and loving who we see staring back at us.
And we don’t get to do that if we are constantly busy, if we are running from
one job to the next and the only stillness in our day is when we plonk
ourselves in front of the television for some mindless entertainment.
A true goddess has asked herself the big questions: Who am
I? Why am I here? What is my purpose? And she likes the answers that she has
come up with: I am a luminous being of Light and Love. I am here to share my
Light and Love with the world. My purpose is to shine and help others to find
their way.
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