What have I been up to?

 You may have noticed I'm not posting here as much.

Do not despair!

 I am still around , still writing , just posting in different places.

Yesterday I started writing this piece for my new website ( you should definitely go check it out!)

 Daily Self Love

Self love is a daily requirement. Just like we need to shower, brush our teeth, make healthy food choices and exercise, we need to work self love into our daily lives. The trouble is that we think that by doing the things listed before that we are loving ourselves and while they are certainly part of the equation, they are definitely not the whole story.

The whole story is being gentle with yourself on the rough days. The days when life is dragging you down and you are not sure if you want to get back up and instead of berating yourself or eating a tub of ice cream or listening to the voice in  your head that tells you all the reasons that you are worthless and a failure you choose to get up, look yourself in the eye and say “It’s okay, babe, you got this.”

The whole story is talking nicely to yourself to drown out the Negative Nelly in your head so that the bitch sits down and shuts the fuck up so you can carry on with your day.

Click on the link below to read more

http://www.caitlingraceauthor.com/blog/daily-self-love/

 Or you hop over here and read my latest post for The Huffington Post

 Divorce: 22 years later 

I divorced my first husband 22 years ago.


This weekend I just had him, his new wife and my ex mother-in-law over for an extended family get together and it was lovely. There were no big dramas other than 2-year-old teething tantrums from my granddaughter and squawks from the 4-month-old twin granddaughters. In fact it was the best family gathering I have had in my home for a long while.
Click the link to read more
 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/caitlin-grace/divorce-22-years-later_b_9214442.html 

 

I've been hiding!

Well that is not entirely true!

I have been busily working on the September Self Love Immersion ( you can still sign up here http://eepurl.com/bea4Bj) 
 I am also busily working away at creating the Awaken Your Inner Goddess on line program which I am really excited about . I have been working on this for aaaaaaggggggggeeeeesssss because I want to get it just right and really help women let go of all the old paradigms and beliefs that are holding them  back from truly being their most authentic selves, attracting the kind of relationship that nourishes their souls, reigniting the passion in their current relationship and move them into a place of deep peace and satisfaction with their lives.

For years, I was stuck in a relationship that just wasn't working. Sure we had an awesome sex life  and two great kids but I felt like something was missing. And it was. I was the one that was missing. Somewhere along the way I lost myself. I lost who I was outside  of being a Mum and someone's wife. I lost the part of me that lit up just by being myself. You can read more about my journey to reigniting myself in my book.

I have also been busily writing for The Huffington Post because my mission is to help as many women  as possible live lives of passion, purpose and as the Sensual Awakened Goddesses that they were born to be.

Here's the links to some of my posts:

How to raise caring sons

What are you waiting for?

5 tips to love yourself more

Making Love Last

Go check them out. Share them on your page or tweet them out and I will love you forever!

Reasons to believe that the world is a good place

At times it can feel like the world is falling apart.

We hear stories of war, terrorism, bloodshed, murder and mayhem on a daily basis and it feels like there is no good left in the world.

Sadly the media has a "if it bleeds, it leads" mentality and so all the crap that we do to each other is what makes the headlines which leads to a very sordid, sad and depressing view of the world.

The reality is that the wold is full of miracles. Everyday there are people going out of there way to make this world we live in a better place. We've just been looking in the wrong places trying to find it. And if we want to believe in the world being a good place filled with loving kind people then we need to focus more on that and less on the other.

In the Law of attraction it is stated that what you focus on expands so if you want a peaceful loving world then you need to focus on seeing a peaceful loving world around you. Not just at Christmas but all year round and as Ghandi says  " Be the change you want to see in the world". That means YOU need to be more peaceful, loving and kind on a daily basis.

(1) #Illridewithyou

On Monday hostages were taken in a Sydney cafe by a man. He had them hold up a flag in the window with Muslim writing on it. The media went into a frenzy that this was terrorism and was Islamist. At the same time a couple of people on twitter started the hashtag #Illridewithyou to reach out to the Muslim community in Sydney to show them that they were not willing to lump them all under the same banner and that they would be willing to stand up and support them against racism or abuse from fellow Australians who were perhaps, not so enlightened See some of the tweets here

(2)  Secret Santa

In America tensions between the public and  the police have been at an all time high due to various court rulings on police killing innocent black men ( I won't list them here but I do believe #blacklivesmatter)

A wealthy businessman in America has made it a practice each year to give away money at Christmas time. This year he enlisted the local police force to help him to do his part in restoring some faith in cops and help out the deserving at the same  time.

(3) Random Acts of Kindness

People doing random acts of kindness for no other reason than because they can. One woman paid off  the lay away tabs for a whole store. Or all the people that sent Christmas cards to a dying girl. Or the woman who paid for coffee for the person behind her and everyone continued it for the rest of the day.

Random acts of kindness can be big or small but the impact and feel good vibes they leave behind linger for a long, long time. In fact studies have been done that show that just witnessing a random act of kindness makes people feel happier and floods their bodies with feel good hormones.

Want to flood yourself with even more goodness? Here's some stories from Random act of Kindness Week in February of this year.

Want more random acts of kindness? Go here for another ten stories to warm your heart.

(4) All the parents who are doing an AWESOME job of raising their kids

In this age of technology it is now easier than ever to capture ( and share) those moments when you get parenting right ( and let's face it sometimes it feels like you never do!) These parents (and many others) are doing an epic job.

Check out this blog and this one from Hands Free Mama

Shaping young lives is a full time job. Holding space for them to figure out who they are and who they want to be takes patience, love and patience ( yup lots and lots, that's why I wrote it twice) and is THE MOST IMPORTANT job in the world and yet we barely acknowledge it.

And when we look at the world through the eyes of our children we see that it is still full of magic and wonder. Let's not lose that.

How are you making the world a beautiful place today? What random act of kindness can you do to shape the world we live in tomorrow?

Hello Gorgeous!

I bumped into two acquaintances in the past week, on two separate occasions. Both greeted me with "You look great!" but one went on to add "Have you lost weight?"

Now I am a big girl. Voluptuous, curvy, Rubenesque, Amazon, fat and obese are all words that get bandied about when it comes to me. And I'm ok with that, what I struggle with is the constant quizzing about my weight, the "Have you lost weight?" questions.

The sad thing is they think they are giving you a huge compliment ( pun intended)  but what they are actually saying is that for you to "look good" then surely you must be doing something to reduce your size because surely you can't be happy looking like you currently do.

I watched this video of a stand up comedienne who faces being called fat on a daily basis and the startling discovery she made when she found one of the "trolls"who had been launching a hate campaign against her. truns out he wasn't very happy with his life and was lashing out at her to make himself feel better.

I am thinking that it might just be the case with the acquaintance that I bumped into and the myriad other people that ask me "have you lost weight?"whenever I bump into them. Maybe the issue they have is not with my body but with their own and when they see someone my size looking good and feeling confident then they assume I am doing something to change the way I currently look because that is what they are doing.

I also think part of the issue is how we talk to women in general and it starts from when we are little. we are always complimenting little girls on how cute they look, how pretty until they start to believe that it is the only gift they bring to the table.

What if we took a different approach? What if we stopped talking about our looks all the time and started having conversations about our minds? What if we didn't assume that a fat chick looking great is because she has lost weight but because she is in fact a happy, confident person?

What if we stopped obsessing about those last few pounds that we had to lose and realized that actually, or lives are pretty damn awesome, thank you very much?

What is we, as women, stopped looking at other women for signs of flaws so that we can feel better about ourselves?  Stop buying the women's magazines that show images of celebrities with headlines gasping about their too fat/too skinny/cellulite/wrinkles/possible baby bump.

What about if we just started loving ourselves and stopped worrying about what others think of us? A radical concept I know.