I am woman - hear me Roar!

I was reading  an article in The Sydney Morning Herald today ( you can read it here ) where the author attended a charity even featuring two female athletes. After the women had done their piece the MC, a male comedian proceeded to make some sexual innuendos about them.

No-one complained.

No-one left.

The author asked : Who will stand up and declare themselves the wowser, to draw the line and possibly alienate friends and colleagues?

And as he ( I'm assuming its a he, the name is Sam so could be female) goes on

 I attended a second charity dinner recently. The guest of honour this time was one of Australia's most handsome international male actors. When a walk on the red carpet with the star was auctioned, one table of women jokingly offered $50,000 if the date continued until the next morning (wink, wink).

 

And he's right. Women are not the only one's turned into sex objects. We do get it more often than men. We suffer through cat calls and wolf whistles on a daily basis. Men often talk to our chest not our faces.

BUT ( and its a big but) We do the same. we gathered in groups to attend the movie Magic Mike to drool over the hot, male bodies on display. Male strip shows are places where women let their hair down and paw at the strippers. In fact its well known that women man handle the strippers in ways that would never be tolerated at a female strip show.

The line is not only wiggly but also very blurred.

We cannot take the moral high ground while we are treating men in the very way that we denounce.

We cannot blame men for treating us like sex objects while at the same time ordering the latest Fireman's calendar so we have something to drool over.

Are we ready to draw the line in the sand and state: This is not acceptable for either sex to do?

We've tried the "If you can't beat them, join them" theory and nothing has changed. In fact , if anything, opinions have become more entrenched with both sides going "well, they are doing it too so it must be ok"

When I was a lot younger and married to my first husband one of his friends regularly made sexual innuendos towards me on a regular basis. No-one said anything, including my husband.

These were not veiled commnets. These were in your face, threatening statements made about me in front of all our friends (and trust me I am using the term very loosely). These statemnts made me question the very foundation of our marriage and his lack of support for me. Ultimately I left him.

Years later I asked him why he never stood up for me and he replied "I figured you could stand up for yourself."which I found very telling.

I guess my point is if we don't want to be treated tlike sex objects then we have to stand up for ourselves and walk out of events when woman are being made into sex objects. It starts with us. We cannot sit back and wait for someone to protect us or stand up for us. That person is us.

As for what people will think of us if we do, well that is their issue isn't it?

Raising gorgeous boys

  I am a mother of three sons.

I am a step mother to four daughters.

I am a grandmother to seven grandsons and two grand daughters

It hurts my heart to know how many boys suffer from depression during there teenage years. Sadly, many of them go on to commit suicide.

Some use drinking and driving as a means of shortening their lives. Others use drugs or huffing. Some find the pain of being alive so unbearable that they take extreme measures to end their lives.


One of the greatest gifts we can give our sons is our time.

One of my sons suffered through a bout of depression and I would often just go and sit in his room, not talking, not trying to get him to talk. Just allowing the space for him to talk if he chose too but content either way to just be with him and for him to be with me.

I have always made it a practise to hug my sons and tell them how much I love them, regardless of their age, or how uncool it was and,bless them  they always hugged me back and said "I love you too Mum." even when it was not cool.

Sadly, some parents stop hugging their kids when they reach a certain age.

I remember clearly when my father stopped hugging me. Every night I went and sat on my Dads lap and gave him a hug and a kiss good night. When I was around 11 he picked me up off his lap and told me I was too big for that now. I was devastated and refused to even kiss him goodnight for days.

I realise now that I was probably starting to develop breasts and he felt it inappropriate to have me on his lap. How sad. I was his daughter and he was the only means of male affection in my life. It is never inappropriate to hug your kids or show them affection.

Yes, some people are sick and twisted and inappropriate with their kids. Most are not. Don't refrain from hugging or being affectionate with your children in fear that "someone" will misconstrue it. that is political correctness gone mad and has no place in your home.

Our kids look to us to learn how to be in a relationship. They look to us to learn how to express emotions. They look to us for support and nurturing throughout their lives and our job is to let them know that they are loved, unconditionally regardless of the choices they make or the lifestyles they pursue. They need to know that we are proud of them, of who they have become.

We say that we want our men to be different in this world. That we want them to be more in touch with their softer side, more open and vulnerable with us. We say we want them to be strong and virile and yet soft and gentle.
                                                                    
                                                                                         It starts by raising gorgeous boys, by allowing them to cry, by teaching them the names for their emotions and allowing them to express them all. It starts by hugging our children all the way through their lives and telling them repeatedly how much we love them.

My son came out of his depression and is living a great life and I still tell him how much he means to me when he rings home or when I see him. I do this with all of my sons and daughters. I am so proud of them all and the lives that they are leading and yes, I tell them that too.

Who do you need to reach out to and hug? Who would love to hear you say "I love you" ?

For the world to be the delicious, loving place that we dream of we need to start reaching out and saying those magic words and hugging each other. So get to it! Go hug someone now!!

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Tender Touch

Human beings need to be touched.

We crave it.

We yearn for it.

Psychologist Virgina Satir broke it down for us. She said that we need:

4 hugs a day for survival
8 hugs a day for maintenance  and
12 hugs a day for growth.

Think about that for a minute.

Then ask yourself  "how many hugs have I given today and how many have been given to me?"


I subscribe to an email  from Cheryl Richardson and today's offering was a doozy (you can read it here ). she tells the story of a listener of hers that she happened to meet at a conference and she gave him a hug. He then posted this to her facebook page:
“Meeting you yesterday and watching you work was profound. I am not normally the kind of person who gets emotional upon meeting a public figure, but as strange as it sounds, seeing you yesterday for the first time ever, the feeling came over me was the feeling one might feel upon seeing a beloved, favorite, loving aunt, lol. I don’t believe I’ve been hugged in 3 years. 
There were so many wonderful things I could say or reminisce about this weekend but I guess there are only really two words that will suffice.  THANK YOU! ;-)“

The saddest part is that he hadn't been hugged for three years. 3 YEARS!!

Now I am a very touchy, feely person and I cannot even begin to imagine what that would feel like.

I hug people on a regular basis. Its part of who I am. I will hug you when you arrive at my house and I will hug you when you leave. My husband knows that hugs are like breathing to me so he  gives me lots  and lots and lots of them.
When we first got together this was not part of who he was and he soon learned that this needed to change. I also got him hugging his daughters, my sons and his family.

His family were not huggy people and again they soon learned that I was. Now his mother and father know that they will get hugged when I arrive and when I leave and they now look forward to it.I know his father actually loves it and looks forward to it and will even ask for it if I have gotten caught up in conversation and not given him one when I arrive.

When this video came out it became a YouTube sensation and has been copied by hundreds of people around the world. Why? Because watching it makes you feel good. It restores your faith in humanity.

Many people refrain from hugging or any other touching  because they worry that others will assume they want sex. Women, in particular, shy away from touching their partners because they are concerned that he will take it as an open invitation to sex.
This makes me so sad for two reasons; (1) so what if it does lead to sex? Your husband still thanks you are hot and wants to have sex with you. Congratulations!
(2) you are depriving yourself of an intimate moment  "in case" someone gets the wrong idea. If they do get the wrong idea you can always set them straight but in the mean time you have fed your soul with the warmth of anothers touch. Woohoo!

Seriously people lets get out there and hug up a storm.Start with your family. I hugged my sons all through their awkward teenage years and they needed it. they needed to know that I still loved them. I was also showing them that hugging doesn't always lead to sex, that you can be close and intimate with people without expectation of something more. I also told them I loved them EVERY. SINGLE.DAY!!

So, your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to get out there and start hugging. Your friends. Your kids. Your husband. Your wife. Your parents. Go to it!!

Sexy at any age.

I was reading an article over at Mamamia ( you can read it here) about Pamela Stephenson admitting to plastic surgery, breast implants and botox so she "could look like a babe"

Now I believe everyone is entitled to do what they want with their body, it just saddens me that we are still so  obsessed with looking "young" and lets face it we aren't fooling anyone.

The too tight faces with the wrinkly neck, the dyed brown hair at odds with the rest of the body, the overly pert, round breasts on the stick thin frame ( Hello Victoria Beckham!).

Nobody is buying it. We all know what you are doing and why.

Some of the truly sexy, older women in the acting field are those who have done nothing. Think Helen Mirren , Meryl Streep, Sigourney Weaver and Judi Dench to name a few.

They know that true beauty shines out from within you.

True beauty has little to do with numbers on a scale, your dress size or the colour of your hair.

True beauty is being able to look in the mirror and say "I love you" and mean it.

Loving your body, the place that you live, the place that holds your essence, the very thing that gives you life. truly what is there not to love?

Ahh and when you love that place, then you can walk through this world with your head held high and know that age can not diminish the beauty that is YOU.

NOTHING is sexier than a woman who loves her body, who is proud of the stretch marks and her sagging breasts because it means she has brought new life into this world. Nothing is sexier than a woman comfortable in her own skin, revelling in her own sensuality.

Ladies, get comfortable with who you are. Get comfortable with how you look. Accept the fact that there will always be someone younger, prettier, someone with a tighter body. What they lack is the wisdom and life experiences that you have that make you uniquely you.

Life is not a competition or a race to be one. It is an experience to savour, a juicy adventure to live.

We waste our youth wishing that we were old enough to go out partying, or drinking. Wishing that some cute boy would ask us to the dance. Then when we  are old enough for those things we start longing for the simplicity of youth when we didn't have responsibilities, bills to pay, jobs to go to. when we are older still we wish that we still had that tight, pert, young body.

Lets tell a new story. Lets embrace wherever we are on the aging spectrum and look for the positives. Lets not hide the fact that we are getting older. with age comes, maturity, wisdom and freedom. Freedom from having to give a damn about what anyone else thinks. Freedom to be who you are without apology.

Now that my nest is empty I can relax into just being a couple with my darling, something that we missed earlier as we both came into the relationship with children. Now we can enjoy just being the two of us and it is pure heaven. Do I wish that I still had the body I did when I was 30? Hell yeah! But I am grateful that I still have the body I've got..... it means I'm still here, still alive and looking for more juicy adventure to live.

Losing my libido!

We've all had times when our sex drive seems to have disappeared over the horizon never to be seen again.

Our sex drive is like the ocean. It ebbs and flows. Sometimes you and your darling are going at it like rabbits and then , for some inexplicable reason, something changes and days go by with barely a flicker of lust in either of you.


Unfortunately for some people  the drought never seems to break and before they know it, weeks, months and even years have slipped by.

What can you do to bring some life back into your sex life?

How do you reboot your libido?

First of all realise it happens to everyone, every now and then

Secondly realise that its not the end of the world and know that the fact you have noticed means that there must be some spark still there.

Thirdly ask how you got so busy that sex became something that you just let slide? There could be deeper things happening in your relationship if it has been months or years since you connected.

So how do you keep the spark alive?

Just like anything else it takes commitment and time and effort. Consistency is the key. It is always easier to keep something going than to reboot it from scratch.

Text, call or make a small gesture EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. To show your partner how much they men to you.

Talk. Not just in generalities "Hi honey how was your day?" but "what did you learn today? " 

Listen. Really listen. Connect with your eyes and give your partner your complete attention.

Touch. Touch their hand, their butt, stroke their back as you pass by. Massage their feet. Stroke their hair.


Hubby and I just had five days away from home to go and visit our new grandson. Its a seven hour drive to where my son lives so we had lots of time to talk in the car.

As we were staying at a motel we decided to play one of our favorite games: "Talk dirty to me". The basis of this game is to drive each other to distraction during the trip so that by the time we get to our destination we are primed and ready to go!

It also gives us great memories to use for more sex  play. We can just mention a road trip or a destination and we are instantly on the same wavelength and people around us are completely oblivious of the undercurrent between us.

Relationships require maintenance, just like a car or any other machinery.  And just like a car, if you hit a rough patch, take it in for a check up with an expert here. The trouble is we have all been fed the ".... and they both lived happily ever after." line and when things get rough we assume its because the relationship is broken beyond repair or "She/he doesn't love me anymore" . In actual fact you and your partner have just got lazy, have stopped doing routine maintenance on your relationship and hoped that it would look after itself.

NEWSFLASH! Relationships require regular check ups. If you want to keep the romance alive, keep fanning the flame. Don't wait until the embers have gone cold and then wonder what happened.

What fuel can you add to your fire today?

What is one small romantic gesture that you can make to your partner that will convey "You are sexy and hot and I want to do naughty things to you?"

What are your favourite ways to keep romance alive?  Leave me a comment . I would love to hear from you.

Lets talk about sex...

I don't know about you but I want hot, juicy,noisy, passionate sex not bland "quiet so we don't wake the kids"sex.

I want can't quite catch my breath, ecstatic sex.

I want to meet my partner completely open, open and free from inhibitions and be met the same way.

I want long, slow languorous sex that leave my knees quivering and my body spent.

I want hot, hard lusty sex.

I want soft, melding, melting into each others bodies sex.

I want my husband to know which kind of sex I want just by looking deeply into my eyes.

Yeah, right! That ain't going to happen.

BUT....... if I can open myself fully into the present moment, drop my guards and ....... just tell him? Ahhh that's a different story.

Then the magic can happen...... and does!

So how do we get to that magical place of feeling comfortable enough to say "that's too hard...... don't stop baby.... just a bit longer  ..... oooohhh just over there a bit more." ?

First we have to KNOW what it is that we like and the best way to do that is via the "m"word. Yes masturbation is your best friend. How can anyone else know how your body works if you have no clue? Get comfy with your own body, find the strokes that you like, the pace that you like, the amount of lube you like.

Second, realise that your partner WANTS to please you. They want to do all that they can in anyway that they can to bring you to ecstasy so it would be kind of rude to have that information and not tell them...... wouldn't it?

Thirdly, ask them what they like and then ( if its in the realms of possibility for you) do it for them!


The only way any of us gets better at sex is through communication. If we can be open with our partners on this level it will create a bond of mutual trust and respect that will move well past the bedroom walls. Our whole relationship will deepen.

Talking about sex doesn't have to be hard and talking during sex should almost be compulsory. Men are visual creatures but women create pictures in our minds with words. Start talking  sexy to us and we will start to go weak at  the knees.

There are two rules for great sexy talk;    Song Lets talk about sex
(1) Leave your inhibitions at the bedroom door
and
(2) Be your sexy, erotic self.

That's it. If you start getting into your head "What will they think? Am I going too far? Will she think I'm a pervert? " you will suck all the fun out of it.

Sure the first few times you try you both might get a fit of the giggles but once you find your own inner sexy beast there will be no holding you back.

Just as you guys get turned on by our ooohhs and ahhs we get turned on by hearing you tell us all the delicious things you want to do to us.

Good sex becomes great sex when you both know what the other likes through good communication. Great sex become mind blowingly great sex when sex talk becomes part of the mix and moans of ecstasy are loud enough to wake the neighbours.

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Love your Labia, Ladies

Vulva.

Vagina.


Labia.

Pusssy.


Girly bits.

Fanny.


Whatever you call it, these are the names for our most feminine appendage and just as we have been getting breast implants or breast reductions to have the "perfect" breast, it seems now we have shifted our focus to having the perfect labia.

Labiaplasty is the fastest growing plastic surgery in the UK and possibly the USA as well. We are now paying to have someone slice into our labia to reshape them into what we deem "perfect".

Jamie McCartney's Great Wall of Vagina

Our body insecurity seems to know no bounds. We are no longer content with wanting to shift a few pounds to fit into some socially prescribed ideal body size, or getting breast implants to have the right size breasts, now it seems we have started to worry about the size of our labia too, a part of our body that very few people even see.

So who are we comparing ourselves too? Women don't go around showing each other their vulva's and we don't get to see them when undressing after sports the way men see each others penises. So how are we getting the idea that our lady parts are somehow not right?

With the advent of the Internet, pornography is more readily available than it has ever been and so we are now comparing ourselves to women on those sites.

The rise in Brazilian waxing has also had the lady parts out on display in ways it has never been before. All that this does is make us look more like a prepubescent girl.

Our vagina's and labia change as we age and after we have children but with the hair removal and labiaplasty we are trying desperately to hold onto your youth. But just how young do we want to make ourselves look? And why?

The one ( and only!) time I ever shaved my pubic hair I was horrified that I no longer looked like a woman but instead looked like I did at 13. I didn't feel womanly or sexy. I felt immature and girlish. I have spoken to some women who regularly get waxed and they tell me it makes them feel "clean" and I can't help thinking this somehow means "virginal".

If we are to embrace our true womanliness and to feel like strong, empowered, sexual beings then, in my mind, we need to start by loving all of our bodies, loving our hairy underarms, legs and vulva's. We have to stop buying into the religious and tribal beliefs that somehow women are unclean and that sex is dirty. We have to stop believing that we smell.

Western women have the luxury of choice in so many matters; how we dress, who we marry, whether we work or not, how many children we have, the list goes on and on. Genital mutilation is a very real and very present threat for women in many cultures and many countries. Lets not choose to mutilate our own genitals for the sake of some idea of beauty.

Most men, when asked, would not discriminate against having sex with a woman just because of her labia. In fact if they have got this up close and personal with you, chances are they are just grateful to be having sex with a gorgeous woman. If he didn't think you were a beautiful,amazing woman you wouldn't have got this far. If he is so crass as to comment on the size and shape of your labia or suggest that you wax then you have just discovered some valuable information about him. He is in fact a douche and you can save yourself a lot of heartache by never seeing him again and waiting instead for a real man to come along.

Real men love you for WHO you are not WHAT you look like. Strong , sexy, empowered sex goddesses know this and attract just such men.

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Top Ten Tips to Improve Your Sex Life - Guaranteed Part 2

 For Him;


So now that the girls know what to do to help keep the guys interested, what can the guys do to guarantee they get more sex?
 We  know that women are a wee bit more complex than men when it comes to sex so lets look at some simple steps you can take to help her feel more in the mood and more often
(1) Notice her.
Women love it when you notice that they've had their hair done or done something different with their make up or are wearing a new outfit. You see we are doing a lot of that stuff to help keep you interested in us and if you give us a compliment it means that its working, it means that you are really paying attention to US and we like that.

The very first time I got my eyebrows shaped and tinted I thought to my self "I wonder how long it will take my darling to notice?". I was pleasantly surprised that he noticed as soon as he walked through the door. I shouldn't have been because he really LOOKS at me, not just a quick glance but  eye to eye contact and I feel it in his gaze that he loves me. That's what you want your lady to feel too.

(2) Tell her that you love her.

For no reason at all. Just tell her. You guys may be visual but girls are wordy. We need to hear the words spoken out loud. I know you are showing us everyday but we need to hear it too.

(3) Touch her.

Women need ten ( yes 10!) non sexual touches a day. Give her a hug before you leave for work and another as soon as you walk through the door. Hold hands while watching tv, stroke her back as she's passing you. It's not hard to do and we love it.  The more touching you do before we hit the bedroom the more likely we are to be in the mood when we get there.

Lets face it women are slow burners, so think of touching us as stoking the fire.

(4) The 10 second kiss.

We love kissing. If touching stokes the fire then kissing is adding even more fuel to it.

We are not talking about a swift peck on the cheek here though.

We want lip locking, tongue tangling, juicy kissing.

One great ten second kiss will make our knees weak and our hearts melt and we will be putty in your hands. And if we could have one of those  a day please, we would be very grateful, thank you very much.

(5)Gratitude.

Thank her for the dinner she just made you.

 Thank her for having your clothes clean and ready to wear tomorrow.

Thank her for running that errand for you during the day, when she probably had a million other little jobs to do.

If you thank her on a regular basis for all the little jobs she does for her it means you are not taking her for granted. When we slide into the murky waters of taking someone for granted we are often on the slippery slope of not noticing them, then comes only noticing the things they do that bother you and before you know it you are in the divorce courts wondering what the hell happened.

Make gratitude a habit and she will feel noticed, cared for and loved. Best of all she will also feel more like making love because she knows how much she means to you. Win/ Win.

(6) Call her a goddess.

The more you make her feel like she is something special the sexier she will feel.End of story.

(7) Call her gorgeous.

My husband worked next door to where I lived and before we even started going out I would see him most mornings as I went about my daily routine and whenever he saw me he would call out "Good morning gorgeous" and, just like she said in the movie "Jerry Maguire",  he had me at hello.

Most women have some issue with their body but if you tell her how beautiful she is everyday, slowly but surely she will start to feel more confident about how she looks. A confident women is a sexy women and if she knows it she will definitely let you know too.

(8) "I just called to say I love you."  ( I bet you just sang along to that didn't you?)

That's what Stevie Wonder sang in the 80's  and it still works today.

In fact you don't even need to tell her that you love her when you ring. Nope, just calling unexpectedly lets her know she was on your mind.

A sweet text will do the same thing but the sound of your voice will definitely make her melt more.

(9) Listen to her.

Look her in the eyes while she's talking to you. 

Yes, I do mean tear your eyes from the television screen and even better, put it on mute. Now she has your undivided attention. She is not necessarily looking for a solution but she does want to engage with you.

Women often complain that their men don't listen to them and it is generally because he's not paying attention while she talks. I you believe that her opinion matters then connect with her while she is talking to you.

(10) Take your time.

When we are making love don't race for the finish line. Good love making should be a marathon not a sprint.

Sprints are fine, every now and then but give us time to get in the race.  Slow and sensual is what we love the most.

All these tips have been about connecting on a daily level with your significant other. Helping them to feel cherished, loved and nurtured so that when you both step into the bedroom you are carrying that connection through into another aspect of your relationship.


What do you think ? What's your best tip to improving your sex life? I would love to hear your comments or even suggestions of what you'd like to read next.

Top Ten Tips for Improving your Sex Life- Guaranteed

Great sex begins, first and foremost, in the brain.

Truly spectacular sex is a build of little things done throughout the day.

 Little things that let you know that you are loved
and valued as a human being


For her:
(1) Love your body! Nothing, I repeat NOTHING is sexier to a man than a woman who loves her body and oozes self confidence. When you love your body it radiates out of you like a halo of energy and men are attracted to it like moths to a flame.

The more in touch with your body that you are the more sexy you feel.  The sexier that you feel the more your lover will be attracted to you.

The bonus? If you are single and radiating how much you love yourself and your body, the more men will be attracted to you.

Start by focusing on one aspect of your body that you like. Make sure to tell that part of your body how much you love it and how great it looks. Once you are truly enamoured of it, pick another part of your body . Keeping working away at ti until you love all your body or, at the minimum, are grateful for what it does for you.

(2) Practise Gratitude.

Everyday I tell my husband one thing that I am grateful for that he does for me. Every night, without fail, he thanks me for cooking him dinner. EVERY.NIGHT.He's been doing that ever since we got together 20 years ago. At first I thought it was a bit weird but now I realise he truly means it.

So find one thing that your husband or partner does and thank them for it.

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If that feels too weird then start keeping a gratitude journal and write down all that you are grateful for, not just in your relationship but in your life.

I have been keeping a gratitude journal for years and one of the first things I always write down is how grateful I am fro my loving and supportive husband and for how our relationship has grown and deepened.

(3) Ask him for help with something.

Men are solution based creatures. Whenever you are venting to him about one of your girlfriends, he thinks that you are wanting him to help you solve the problem.

When you ask him for help he feels needed and valued  just like you do when he hugs you or tells you that he loves you.

And when he has solved your problem; installed the shelf, changed the oil in your car, fixed the squeaky door, whatever, thank him!

(4) Send him naughty texts.

The advent of cellphones is a boom for romance. It allows you to say things that you probably wouldn't say to his face. And there is nothing hotter than anticipation!

Be as daring as you re comfortable with but give him an idea of just what you would like to do to him when he gets home. Flex your flirting skills.

(5) Now that you've got him all hot and bothered wear one of his favourite outfits.

Men are visual creatures and love to look at their darlings all dressed up . This doesn't mean that you have to go over the top but showing off some of your assets in an outfit he loves will certainly help get him in the right frame of mind.

For my husband its seeing me in jeans and a white tee shirt. I'm sure your partner has told you how much he likes you in one of your outfits so make a point of wearing it for him when you want the sparks to fly.

(6) Pamper him.

Every now and then buy him his favourite beer or offer to massage his shoulders.

Just do one thing that is totally for him.

My darling and I love to share a bath together so sometimes I will have that ready for him when he gets home from work. Its a great way for us to both unwind and connect with each other.

(7) Let him know you think he is a Stud.

Just like we love to be told how sexy he thinks we are, men need to know how much of a sex god you think he is.

(8) Give him a flash!

The more unexpected the circumstances the more he will love it.


(9 ) Give him some space to hang out with the boys. No guilt trips. No nagging as to when he'll be home. Just time to be ....... and if you are really lucky he will do the same for you.


(10) Practise your pelvic floor exercises.

Lets face it pushing an 8 pound baby out of your vagina does things to it that it will never fully recover from.

There are lots of benefits to good pelvic floor control. Regular kegels bring a flush of blood to your vagina which is always a good thing. It can also aid in lubrication which becomes more of an issue as you get older.

The best benefit is allowing you to get a good grip on your partner which brings greater satisfaction to both of you.  Give it a go. what have you got to lose?


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